It Was Never Meant To Be

Chances are, if you’re reading this, you fall into 1 of 2 categories:

  1. You believe in fate.
  2. You don’t believe in fate.

The thing is, many of us, at one point or another, have probably been able to identify with both categories, and actually most of us end up falling into a 3rd category: We believe in fate…sometimes.

I say sometimes because throughout most of our day to day lives, nothing extraordinary happens, that is, until that fateful day when something happens that can only be described using those 5 little words:

It was meant to be

Weirdly enough, I’m not writing this post to persuade you one way or the other on whether or not you should believe in fate or a “higher calling”.

I’m also not writing this to tell you that “fate” is total horse shit, because that would mean.

Honestly, I’m just writing this post so I can get one thing out of the way that’s been bothering me for a long time.

Most romance movies are toxic and misleading.

And I’m not saying anything new, because most people have come to realize this already. Romance movies give a us a false interpretation of how life and relationships are supposed to start, grow, and last.

The thing about movies is that they’re typically less than 2 hours, so in order for the producers to allow for us to create an emotional bond with the characters, things have to move fast….and they do.

The movie 500 Days of Summer is a good example of this, and if you haven’t seen it, I would highly recommend you do.

Anyways, the title literally implies that the movie spans of the course of 500 days. But when you’re watching you the movie, you don’t really get the sense of that time frame.

You miss the part where they text each other awkwardly, and to be honest, probably a bit boring. You miss the “Yeah LOL” and the “I don’t know, what do you wanna eat?” and that’s a good thing, because that’s BORING.

We don’t want to pay money to see something that we’ve already seen a hundred maybe even a thousand times in our lives.

No, we want to see two people falling in love, overcoming all odds, and growing together as a couple.

We want to see the things we secretly hope would happen in our own lives.

And is that such a bad thing? Is it wrong for us to hope for “movie-like” experiences to happen in our lives?

No…it’s not.

Optimism is something I truly and wholeheartedly stand behind, and I encourage everyone to be as optimistic as possible because we all need that, especially when no one’s there to give it to but ourselves.l

What I’m saying is is at the end of that movie, 500 Days of Summer, when Tom has lost the love of his life, he meets a girl, and she says this:

Girl: Have I seen you before?

Tom: Me? I don’t think so…

Girl: Do you ever go to Angelus Plaza?

Tom: Yes. That’s like my favorite spot in the city.

Girl: I think I’ve seen you there.

Tom: Really? I haven’t seen you.

Girl: You must not have been looking.

And that’s what I love about this movie, and what it subtly says about our own lives.

Some of us are so caught up in “creating the perfect fantasy”, we end up ignoring everything else around us, in turn, missing out on the other opportunities that were there all along, but you just didn’t realize it because of “fate”.

thanks for reading,